Holy Water and Egos

Sunday was Nora's baptism. She had a beautiful dress made by our Judy, and I wardrobed my family perfectly. Abby also wore white, with a blue bow in her hair that matched the flowers on my skirt and Tim's tie. You are going to have to trust me on this one since there are no (in focus) pictures of the main event.
Since we are not the Catholic Mafia and just the regular Mafia we had a "public" baptism with 5 other babies getting dipped at the same service. Everything went fine, Nora sang and ralphed through the whole thing. We have only a few, blury pictures because Tim's mom was trying to work our camera and changed the speed on it. I am actually really sad about this because we have about 120,000 pictures of Abby's baptism, and 7 blurry ones of Nora's.
Against my better judgment we had the "celebration" afterwards at my father in law's house (you know, the house my mother in law just moved out of). He has a pool, and I thought it would be fun for the kids to swim on the hottest day of the year. It was fun, for them, but not for anyone who came in contact with my mother in law. She was a nightmare. At any chance she got she would comment on her not living there and air all kinds of dirty laundry. She was rude to my father in law and it all really upset Tim. I, as always, felt bad for him because he was not ever given the resources to discuss his feelings or confront his mother about what she does that he doesn't like. I know that she is angry, and that she is hurt, but she was awful to my FIL when all he was trying to do was have a nice party for his Granddaughter. She ruined the day for Tim which makes me sad.
While all this was going on I was dealing with my stepmother's family. It was really nice of them to come, but they found the most secluded place in the house and camped out there most of the day. I felt bad for them and spent a bulk of my time trying to entertain them. Now I know that was my choice, but there were so many others that I did not speak to, I guess that is how it goes.
As I said there are very few pictures of the event, but the 3 we have are here. We all looked so cute, but the only family picture we got is one with Tim not color coordinating, as well as 3 sheets to the wind. I guess that is ok, because a lot of family was missing form the entire day. As usual I feel bad for Eleanor that she is getting the shaft on yet another front. There are pages and pages of pictures from Abby's baptism. Her with her God-parents, with her Grandparents, with her aunts and uncles, etc. But we don't have that for Nora. Partly because not everyone was there and also because we couldn't find the time to do it. I don't know if it is because I am a little sister that I am so sensitive to this, but it bugs me that she continually gets shafted and won't be able to bitch about it until she is 17. I guess that's how it goes with the second one. I can't even imagine how #3 will feel....